Is your anger flowing off the charts? This just may lead to people casting you off their lives. This may hurt to hear but it is nonetheless true. Just as you wouldn't like someone who undermines you a lot, so do the others. Anger can lead to you saying things that are hurtful, things you didn't really mean. Words are like the edge of a sword, once swung it neither knows friend nor foe.
So how about getting off your lazy a** and doing something about it.
Here are six steps to effectively deal the anger out.
1. The best remedy ever I have found out
Yes, the stark truth, it is meditation. I know many people consider it to be a farce. Once upon a time I was of the same mentality. However, I lost a great number of friends due to angry words spoken from each side. That was the time I decided to try just for the heck of it. So let me just give a quick glance of what i did, for further information, just leave me a comment, or if you want to remain anonymous, just send off a mail to me.
Take a meditative position. Concentrate on your being. Concentrate on what makes you one with the world. Concentrate on what the source of your anger is, and slowly try to rinse it off with the thoughts about people you love, the things that make you happy. You also don't need to be a meditation guru of the degree where people just forget about everything else that is happening. The only requirement is for you to be in a calm environment, and for you to think internally about your actions.
2. You can't just do meditation at any possible moment, so what to do in the moment
Well the thing to do at the present branches off into three different situations:
a) It's a friend and it was just a misunderstanding:
Just think about what you like about them as a friend, your anger would melt away, then just apologize, even if it wasn't your fault and especially if it was yours. Most of the times, they would love you for it, and your friendship may turn out to be the stronger for it.
b) It isn't someone you know and it was a misunderstanding, or a minor infraction:
Think about how the fight isn't worth it, and just may lead to a huger scene than before. Just apologize, then throw an olive branch and offer a hand of friendship. Though do try to gauge the person before offering friendship.
c) Somebody just hurt somebody you love:
This time I won't tell you to say sorry. Go out with your full might, and put them through hell, they should learn better than to trifle with your loved ones or anyone's else for that matter.
3. Workout
This may seem far from productive to anger related issues. However as I have found out, when you workout, you seem more good and confident about yourself and are harder to anger. Also, that worked out look, will give others a pause before trifling with the badass that you come off to be. Another benefit is that, when you workout, you instinctively try to eat healthier.
4. Food
Well I ain't a dietician by any far claim, but generally oily and fatty foods make you more lethargic, downtrodden, and eager to jump fists at the first moment possible. So, include those famous fruits that your parents have been trying to get you to eat for along time, and see the benefits. Not just in your anger management, but also in your health. That's two gifts packed in one, and why be illogical enough to forsake it.
5. Another reason is the cooped up feeling
You just may have been living the same life for too long. In a long marriage, maybe you are just tired of the same day-to-day life, tell your wife this and take a week off just to yourself. Have a guy's night out. Just do something new in your life. Been through the same boring 3-4 year of college, just take some time, go on a trip with friends, or just discover something new all by yourself. Not having the balance enough to do this, why don't you branch out out into a section of books you never felt good about reading before. Hated gaming, well it just may be time to take a AAA game off the shelf, and play it through to the end in a marathon.
6. Still having the angry feeling inside you
Well I am deeply sorry for not being able to help you and I apologize wholeheartedly to you. However, it just might be time to get into anger management course or get a counselor, your issues might be an offspring of something that happened way in your past.
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